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SINGLE & HAPPY

I am well-acclaimed in the art of singleness. After six years of being mostly single, I’ve learned a thing or two about finding happiness while flying solo. Disclaimer: this doesn’t mean there won’t be lonely nights, or moments when you scroll through Instagram and see a happily married couple, wishing that were you. Those feelings are part of singleness — but they don’t have to define your joy.

First, Singleness Is a Gift
Many women encourage taking your time before settling down: to travel, dream, and explore. This is the season where a single woman can nurture the most important relationship of all — the one with herself. She travels, goes out with friends, enjoys skating nights, and even binge-watches an entire Netflix series in peace. All of this is a gift, a chance to fully experience life without compromise.

Second, Fall in Love with Yourself
Yes, I said it. Falling deeply in love with yourself is a beautiful part of singleness. For years, I wrestled with self-hatred — overeating to cope, drinking to numb, smoking to escape. But one day, after years of being single, I stood in the mirror and finally loved myself — the curves, the stretch marks, the missing teeth, the big teeth, every part of me. I fell in love with the woman God created, my true self.

Third, Save Yourself
Singleness removed my excuses. I used to think I’d wait for my husband to come before buying a home, fixing my credit, paying off student loans, or pursuing my dreams. But Jesus had already given me permission to be great without a husband. Once I stopped waiting on someone else, I started living the life God had been showing me. I didn’t need a husband to save me; I could fully trust God and embrace the abundant life He has for me.

I’m now married, but for nine years, I was a single woman running a ministry and wholeheartedly pursuing God. And even now, marriage hasn’t changed that—I’m still chasing after Him with the same devotion. Because truly, the safest and sweetest place you can ever be is in the will of God.

Enjoy your single season — it’s a gift, and it’s only for a season.

Reflection:

Singleness is a gift — a season to grow, heal, and fall in love with yourself. It’s a time to trust God, pursue your dreams, and embrace the life He has for you, without waiting on someone else. Enjoy this season, sister, and let God shape you into the woman He created you to be.