When It Is Difficult to ForgiveSample

Day 4: Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation

Do you sometimes feel confused whether you have really forgiven someone, when you cannot just allow them to play the same role in your life as before? It is important to separate the thought of ‘complete forgiveness’ from ‘trusting someone’. Forgiving someone does not mean you have to allow them back into your life. Forgiveness is given freely, but trust is earned. Forgiveness is unconditional, but the character of the person must show they are trustworthy to walk with you again.

Testimony:
Maria has made this mistake several times, allowing people back into her life who continued to misuse her position and resources for personal gain. Today, she can honestly say that she has forgiven them, but she will no longer share her life with them on a personal level like she did before. However, when she comes across some of these people, she has grace with them, remains friendly and is sincerely interested in their well-being.

Prayer:
Lord, help me to forgive completely, and also be free from self-doubt. Help me discern the difference between complete forgiveness and having someone’s trust. Give me wisdom to set healthy boundaries while still walking in love and truth. In Jesus' name, Amen.