3 Questions Every Son Needs AnsweredSample

Conclusion

The heart of a young man is delicate yet powerful. Like that acorn mentioned on the first day, our son's heart has the DNA to fully develop a plan for growing into a mature adult man. However, the way we answer these questions for them will determine the environment in which they grow.

Positively answering these three questions develops your son's confidence and allows him to operate from a position of strength instead of seeking strength. I believe your son's identity is formed.

Don't let the opportunity pass you by to answer his questions. Encourage each other, speak clearly and intentionally as we are commanded in 1 Thessalonians 5:11, "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." Whether you are a single parent, a blended family, one of two parents in the home, or any other family variation, if you have a son, do not avoid their needs because of a potentially awkward situation or conversation. Their growth and development are more important than what is easy or comfortable.

Avoiding these questions is the danger of pushing your son outside the home for answers. There are safe places to answer these questions outside the home, and sons rarely find them. I have seen them drawn to easy targets that falsely promise to provide satisfaction and fulfillment, only to leave them hollow again. Hedge these dangers by giving them confidence in their identity and calling inside the home.

As you begin listening to these questions, you will hear them frequently. Each might be phrased differently depending on your son's personality, but you will recognize them. Now that you are aware, you can and will identify and address them intentionally. This might be second nature to you, or it might take some time to develop these skills. Either way, you can prepare them for success through your actions.

Speak clearly and seek the heart of the issue. Often, sons aren't aware of their own questions that they're seeking answers to and don't know what they're seeking. But you, as their parent, have the experience that life provides and know them well. Look beyond the behavior, discern what is really important, and answer that question. Even the author of Proverbs uses this application when he describes being a young son: "Listen, my sons, to a father's instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. For I too was a son to my father, still tender, and cherished by my mother." Proverbs 4:1-4.

Regardless of his age, a strong and healthy son is the goal. If your son is young, begin now. If he is growing, the time is perfect. If your son is an adult and out of the home, even with a family of his own, it is not too late. There is no age when a man no longer desires to hear encouragement from his family, especially his parents.

Suppose you have a daughter in your life as well. In that case, I encourage you to review our YouVersion Bible reading plan, "3 Questions Every Daughter Needs Answered." They, too, have questions, and while similar, they address the greatest needs of her heart for her future.