Seven Days To “From Me to We” Bible Plan

Devotional

Title: Godly Excellence

Bible Reference(s): Proverbs 31:10 – “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.” 

Devotional Content:

I was struck with a profound marriage recharger in a most unlikely place—watching a fictitious TV show. Here’s the recap: a couple was on a date when he became her hero by rescuing her daughter who was in trouble. I got choked up as I watched the female character beam with delight as her new heartthrob saved the day. 

An excellent wife looks for the hero in her man. “Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33). What better way to respect your husband than to see him as a hero? 

When we follow what God says, it can be an act of worship. Titles such as cheerleader, servant, faithful one, encourager, fan can take on a whole new meaning if we look on those titles as godly. Being an excellent wife is a calling—and one which is of great importance to God.

The opposite of seeing your husband as your hero would be to take on the role of professional wife critic. When you criticize your man, what he hears is “I don’t trust you. I don’t respect you. I don’t think you’re doing it right.” Always treat him like he’s the smartest, most capable man in the world. 

Anytime we tumble into disrespectful behavior toward our husband, we dishonor God, and we dishonor our marital vows. What does one do if this happens? Apologize and start over. With God, each day is a chance to start over. “The LORD’S loving kindnesses indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness” (Lamentations 3:22-23). 

He needs your respect. God commands it. When God commands something, he means business, and we need to follow what he says if we want to have a flourishing, God-honoring marriage. God has wired a man in such a way that he—seeks, needs, longs for—the approval of his wife. Seeing him as your hero will safeguard your respect for him. When he offers his help—he’s your hero. When he gives you a listening ear—he’s your hero. When he works hard—he’s your hero. When he gives you a tender embrace—he’s your hero. 

“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma” (Ephesians 5:1-2). 

How you treat your husband is a reflection of how godly you are and how surrendered to Jesus Christ you are. Swapping “me” thinking for “we” thinking will not only honor God but will land you at happily-ever-after. 

So what? Look for ways you can premier your husband as the role of your hero. Praise him in public. Compliment him in private. Cheer for him with large and small successes. 

Dear God, help me be the excellent wife you describe in scripture. Give me wisdom to know the difference between critic and cheerleader. 

This devotional was taken from From Me to We by Lucille Williams.