Title: Doing Good
Bible Reference(s): Proverbs 31:12 – “The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
What does it mean to do good? Certainly to do good means to do no harm or not to hinder. Even after thirty-five years of marriage—and giving it my all to “do good”—I still fail miserably. More times than I’d like to admit. Doing good is not only with our actions, it is with our words as well. Ouch!
Is this hitting home for you?
This principle was brought to light in a whole new fashion for me recently. God impressed on my heart that even though I feel as though I’m offering help and support for my husband if my perceived “help” is causing stress, then, it is not help at all, but instead, it’s “harm.” Yes, we are still talking about words. What we allow to come out of our mouths can have huge ramifications. Words have tremendous power—words can heal…words can build up…words can intimidate…and words can harm.
Sometimes the best support we can offer is silence. A listening ear can prove more impactful than rambling words a significant percentage of the time. A prudent and helpful wife will become proficient at exercising this verse: “Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips” (Psalm 141:3).
If we open the “door to our lips” in order to make “me” feel better, we need to ask, “Will this be fruitful for my marriage? It might make ME feel better, but will it make WE stronger?” Also consider what is said to others as well. Complaining about him to your mom, or a girlfriend may seem harmless, but this can cause destructive thoughts, which in turn, will produce destructive feelings—feelings that you take home with you and spew out all over him.
It all simmers down to this: “She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Proverbs 31:26).
So what? Decide today that you will be mindful of all the words coming out of your mouth. Decide today that you will apologize for destructive words that pass through the “door of your lips.” Decide today to be the “help” that your husband needs.
Dear God, give me the discernment to know which words will help and which words will hinder. May I be a woman who opens her mouth in wisdom and teaches kindness.