Seven Days To “From Me to We” Bible Plan

Day 4 of 7 • This day’s reading

Devotional

Title: Praiseworthy

Bible Reference(s): Romans 12: 2 “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

Devotional Content:

I was feeling particularly needy and insecure. Can you relate? Instead of going to God, I went to my husband hoping he’d fill me with “truth.” I asked him, “Do you love me?” I was hoping to hear words of affirmation and adoration. But instead he said, “I come home, don’t I?” Dagger! Of course you come home. This is where your dog is. And your garage and bed! I walked away feeling more empty and insecure and alone…and unloved. I walked away wounded,and said nothing. Foolishly, I regurgitated this lie that I was unloved. Finally after a couple of weeks passed, I asked my husband again and clarified what he had said. He repeated the dreaded words, “I come home, don’t I?” Why did I ask again? This is brutal! Only this time he continued on, “I love coming home. I love coming home to you. There are lots of other things I could do, but I always want to come home.” 

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8). 

We choose what we dwell on. Dwelling on a lie piles havoc on your life…and your marriage. Was it true that my husband didn’t love me? Was nurturing destructive thoughts lovely or praiseworthy? No. Had I gone to God first, the giver and sustainer of life? No. 

“Behold, God is my helper; the Lord is the sustainer of my soul” (Psalm 54:4). 

Had I focused on the truth of God’s Word, a different conversation would have ensued. When we allow a lie to permeate our thoughts, it will destroy our insides, which causes us to focus on “me.” The result of focusing on a lie and over focusing on “me” will weaken the trust and respect and love in your marriage…it weakens “we.” 

The next time your feelings begin to run the “love” show, ask yourself, is this true? The next time you find yourself dwelling on misguided negativity, ask yourself, is this good? The next time you find yourself complaining, ask yourself, is this excellent? 

In order to have a strong marriage, and one which honors God, we must focus on truth and that which is honorable and good. 

So what? Today, dwell on what is good about your life, and especially what is excellent about your husband. 

Dear God, help me to look for and see the best in my husband. Guide my thoughts to only what is fruitful and good and pure.