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Day 5 Devotional: Third Pillar of Relationship Equity (Roles)

The essence of a truly harmonious marriage lies in the mutual sharing of responsibilities between husband and wife. It transcends the confines of traditional gender-based roles and calls for considering individual interests, unique gifts, strengths, weaknesses, and constraints when assigning tasks within the household. In some societies, the wife has traditionally been designated the role of caregiver and nurturer. Such a role encompasses caring for the children, attending to their needs, ensuring their cleanliness and well-being, preparing meals, and tending to household chores. However, it is of the utmost importance to recognize that these roles should never be assumed by society or culture, nor should they be imposed upon individuals; instead, they should be a matter of personal preference and choice.

The home belongs to both partners, and duties should be shared to avoid overwhelming one individual. For instance, while one partner cooks, the other may set the table or take charge of dishwashing. This collective effort ensures that all hands are on deck, eliminating the burden of a single person shouldering all household responsibilities. In an equitable relationship, both partners should have equal opportunities to participate in and share responsibilities for household tasks, childrearing, and career management. Doing this requires transcending the confines of traditional gender norms and acknowledging and leveraging each partner's unique strengths and preferences.

It is also essential to recognize that roles may shift over time, depending on changing circumstances and needs. For example, suppose one partner becomes ill or needs to take a temporary leave from work. In that case, the other partner might need to do more household tasks and child-rearing responsibilities. There are also seasons where the breadwinner, or the person making the most, no longer does so due to job loss or a career change that might yield a low income initially. More financial responsibilities will fall on the other partner during that season. In an equitable relationship, both partners should be willing to be flexible and adapt as needed to support each other and the family as a whole.

Prayer:

Dear God, we acknowledge that our roles in this relationship are not defined by societal norms but by our unique strengths and interests. Bless us with the wisdom to embrace our strengths and share responsibilities equitably. May we value and appreciate each other's contributions to our shared journey. In your name we pray. Amen.