Myth #3: Sex is to be done one way. There is no room for exploration.
Yesterday we unearthed the biblical truth that we are to take delight in our spouse, and mutually, in one another’s body. However, we are given the freedom through Scripture to enjoy and explore the gift of one another’s body. We can take delight in our sexual adventures with our spouse, while also holding true to boundaries set forth in Scripture.
When it comes to what is and what isn’t allowed in Christian sex, there aren’t a ton of details offered in Scripture. When a man and woman who are married follow God’s Word about treating one another with respect and devotion, they’re practicing God-honoring sex.
If you’re single, you can still start setting a foundation of purity for your future marriage by having healthy views on what honors God today.
It wouldn’t be godly to engage in a sexual behavior if it would hurt, embarrass, or be displeasing to either partner. It wouldn’t be godly to bring pornography into your marriage—or to consume it before you’re married—because that’s not following Jesus’ warnings about lusting.
God’s Word gives a lot of freedom within the bounds of the marriage bed to explore and enjoy your sexual relationship with your spouse, but as you do, remember Romans 12:10 NIV: Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
—Brandon, LMFT-S, PCIT