Myth #1: Sex is Dirty

A lot of people are hesitant to bring up the subject of sex—especially in Christian circles. Which has given rise to several myths about Christians and sex. Let’s take a look into some of those myths so we can get some answers, once and for all. Here is the first of five myths which we, the Church, must no longer allow into our worldview of Christianity or our marriages: sex is dirty.

How do most conversations on sex start? With a look around the room at who may be within earshot, a hand cupped over one’s mouth, and a whisper. Sometimes we stay quiet because we don’t want to let just anyone into our private world. Sometimes it’s because we’re embarrassed. But what other message could this lowering of the voice and watching out for who’s listening subconsciously send? It could send a message that what you’re whispering about (sex) is bad. It can take hold until it enters your conscious thoughts, causing you to feel shame when discussing it—even with your spouse!

Yet, what does God say about sex and sexuality? God created sexual intimacy for marriage, and if God created it, how can it be dirty? In 1 Timothy 4:1-5, Paul confronted false teachings on marriage. He urged believers to receive the truth that what God created, God deemed good. He further urged them not reject the pleasures found within but to wholeheartedly receive them with thanksgiving.

Furthermore, if sex in marriage is dirty, then why is Scripture so graphic in its forthright description of sexual love? Don’t believe me? Then stand up right now and read aloud Proverbs 5:18-19. I’ll wait. … Did your voice suddenly go quiet when you began to read, “may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love”? I bet it did—especially if other people were around.

But there’s nothing dirty or shameful in God-honoring sex. God created man and woman the way He did so your spouse’s body would be delightful to you. So, sex, when in the context of marriage, is a gift from God. 

Brandon, LMFT-S, PCIT