People often express regret when they lose control and allow themselves to be overtaken by anger. Their surrender to this hard-to-manage emotion leads them to behave uncharacteristically and leaves them picking up the pieces of ruined reputations, dealing with the residue of broken relationships, or struggling to forgive themselves for succumbing to a moment of anger. Whether you flare up at the drop of a hat or you reserve your anger for “big things,” the result can be devastating. No matter the degree of anger with which you struggle, God’s Word offers guidance on the most productive ways to deal with anger.
God, I need your help to stay level-headed and not lose control. Help me lean on you.
The writer of Proverbs offers sound advice about avoiding the negative effects of misdirected anger.
Proverbs 15:1, 4, 18
During an argument is probably the most difficult time to carefully choose what we say. But it is one of the most crucial times to watch our words. “A gentle answer quiets anger, but a harsh one stirs it up” (verse 1 GNT). The writer of Proverbs encourages us to use kind words, not only because they diffuse arguments but also because they help avoid them altogether.
Recall your most recent argument with someone. Can you identify words you used that served to build tensions with the other party? What kind words could you have used instead? Memorize Proverbs 15:1 and ask God to help you apply it.
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