MOVING FROM "I CAN'T" TO "I CAN"
If your marriage seems dead, you may believe there’s no hope of bringing it back to life. But sometimes the willingness to try is all you need. If you can take that first small step in the right direction, God will meet you more than half way. He promises to hear and answer if you “call upon Him in the day of trouble” (Psalm 50:15).
Ten years into their marriage, comedian Jeff Allen and his wife Tami were on the rocks. A decade of alcoholism, rage, and non-stop conflict had killed their relationship. Things got so bad that Tami refused to face Jeff when he tried to talk to her. “I’m so hurt and angry,” she told him, “I can’t stand to look at you anymore.”
It was a devastating moment. Jeff and Tami had gone from “I do” to “I can’t even look at you.” Sadly, it’s a similar story in many marriages today. Unresolved anger eats away at the passion and commitment that once brought the couple together.
Fortunately, Jeff and Tami’s story doesn’t end there. With the Lord’s help, they found the strength to take one small step toward reconciliation. It didn’t change their feelings or their relationship right away. But it did something else: it enabled them to take the next small step, then another, and another. It took time, but they kept moving forward and were able to find healing and renew their love for one another.
If you’re in that situation, you may feel like there’s no hope. But the willingness to take even the smallest of steps can pull your marriage out of the ashes.