Becoming the Right Person for and in MarriageSample

DESTINY VS PHYSICAL SHAPE

The choice of who to marry is not a matter of shape, looks, or status—it is a matter of destiny. God told Abraham, “Sarah thy wife shall bear thee a son indeed; and I will establish my covenant with him” (Genesis 17:19 KJV). That covenant could not come through Hagar, no matter how convenient or attractive the arrangement looked. In the same way, you cannot marry outside God’s will and expect His covenant to stand. Paul asked, “What concord hath Christ with Belial?” (2 Corinthians 6:15 KJV). Marriage is a covenant platform; if you join yourself to the wrong person, you may have companionship, but you will lack divine backing.

Sarah was chosen by God to birth the covenant seed, but when she moved outside divine timing, she offered Hagar, and Ishmael was born. The result was strife and confusion that still speaks till today. Many believers repeat the same mistake—they marry according to sight and desire, not divine purpose, and they end up birthing Ishmaels that fight their destiny. Marriage is not for experimentation; it is a covenant arrangement to fulfil God’s plan. A woman who doesn’t know your calling cannot help you, and a man without vision cannot lead you. To marry for shape, money, or convenience is to risk losing your destiny to frustration.

Practically, brothers, before you think of marriage, settle your calling—what has God sent you to do? Sisters, don’t agree to marry a man whose vision you cannot identify with. Marriage is not to rescue loneliness; it is to partner for destiny. When you stand before God, He won’t ask how beautiful your wife was or how rich your husband looked, but whether the union fulfilled His eternal purpose. If you are already married, align your home to destiny. Pray for your spouse, support one another’s calling, and resist every satanic attempt to reduce your marriage to mere fleshly convenience. Only then will your home truly carry heaven’s covenant seal.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Am I making marital decisions based on shape and convenience, or on covenant and destiny? Do I truly value God’s choice above my personal desires?

PRAYER
Lord, deliver me from birthing Ishmaels in destiny. Lead me into covenant alignment in marriage that preserves Your plan for my life.