Becoming the Right Person for and in MarriageSample

DON’T CONFUSE GRACE WITH PERMISSION TO ERR

One of the dangerous lies creeping into the church today is the idea that grace is a subsidy for error. Some believers think God’s grace allows them to marry anyone they like, even when that choice clearly violates His word. But Paul asked pointedly, “Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid” (Romans 6:1–2 KJV). Grace is not a cover for recklessness—it is the empowerment to live above compromise. Ezra rebuked Israel because they mingled the holy seed with strange nations, saying, “The holy seed have mingled themselves with the people of those lands” (Ezra 9:2 KJV). That same error is alive today: believers lowering God’s standard in marriage and expecting grace to cover the fallout.

Beloved, marriage is not where you experiment with the mercy of God. If God gave priests strict instructions on whom to marry under the Old Testament, how much more under grace, where we carry His Spirit within us? Grace is not license; it is responsibility. Grace demands you wait on God for His choice and refuse every counterfeit that appeals to the flesh. The devil will always present “good-looking alternatives” to destiny, but grace gives you strength to say no. If you truly value your calling, you cannot afford to lower the standard. Marrying outside God’s will may look harmless at first, but it is a seed of sorrow that grows into regret.

In practice, don’t let emotions, pressure, or pity deceive you. Refuse to baptise lust as “compatibility.” Don’t think a good man without the Spirit, or a nice woman without consecration, is God’s choice for you. Grace empowers you to stand alone until God’s plan appears. It strengthens you to flee every appearance of evil and wait for heaven’s release. If you are married already, grace can realign your home—yield to the Spirit and He will raise the standard again in your union. Always remember: grace is divine energy to keep God’s standard, never to lower it.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Am I treating grace as divine strength to uphold God’s standard, or as an excuse to lower it? Have I allowed emotions to baptise what God has clearly rejected?

PRAYER
Lord, let Your grace strengthen me to uphold Your standard in marriage. Deliver me from every deception that lowers the bar of destiny.