Becoming the Right Person for and in MarriageSample

COURTSHIP IS NOT A TIME TO EXPERIMENT WITH SIN

The period of courtship is not for testing sin but for proving character. Scripture commands, “Abstain from all appearance of evil” (1 Thessalonians 5:22 KJV). Joseph understood this when Potiphar’s wife grabbed him; he fled rather than explain. Contrast that with Dinah, Jacob’s daughter, who mingled with the daughters of the land and was defiled by Shechem (Genesis 34:1–2 KJV). The difference is clear: one fled and preserved destiny, the other wandered and lost purity. Courtship is not permission to experiment with immorality under the guise of engagement; it is a time to guard destiny and keep the standards of God intact.

Many today have confused love with lust. A man who demands sex in courtship to “prove love” is not led by God but by his flesh. A lady who strips herself before marriage is not preparing for destiny but for destruction. Wrong choices here can wound souls deeply and leave scars that only the redemptive power of Jesus can heal. God’s standard has not changed: holiness before marriage, faithfulness in marriage. You cannot lower the bar and expect a destiny marriage. Grace empowers you to flee temptation, not flirt with it. To ignore this is to fail heaven’s test before you even begin the journey.

Practically, avoid environments that expose you to temptation. Don’t go to places where your purity can be compromised, and don’t assume you are too strong to fall. Even God tests men before entrusting them with serious things; you must demand the same standard. If you are in a courtship, keep it pure and Spirit-led. If you are single, prepare yourself in consecration so that when the time comes, you will not be carried away by lust disguised as love. Destiny marriage is not for careless people—it is for those who treat purity as sacred.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Am I guarding purity in courtship as a covenant responsibility? Or am I excusing sin as “love” while jeopardising destiny?

PRAYER
Lord, help me to keep my body and spirit pure. Deliver me from every appearance of evil in relationships.