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Day 4: Patience in Relationships
Key Passage:
Ephesians 4:2-3 (NLT) "Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace."
Related Passages:
- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- Proverbs 15:18
- 1 Thessalonians 5:14
Devotional:
Today we focus on how patience specifically transforms our relationships. While we often think of patience in terms of waiting for circumstances to change, some of our greatest tests of patience involve people—their weaknesses, differences, and sometimes their direct offenses against us.
The phrase "making allowance for each other's faults" in Ephesians 4:2 uses a Greek word that literally means "putting up with" or "bearing with." This doesn't sound particularly spiritual or noble! Yet Paul identifies this everyday endurance as essential for maintaining unity. Relationships require patience because people are imperfect, including ourselves.
1 Corinthians 13:4 begins its famous description of love with "Love is patient." This positioning is significant—patience forms the foundation upon which other aspects of love are built. Without patience, we cannot consistently express kindness, humility, forgiveness, or any other relational virtue. Impatience short-circuits love before it has a chance to fully manifest.
Patience in relationships takes various forms. Sometimes it means giving others time to grow and mature rather than expecting instant change. Sometimes it means listening fully before responding, especially in conflict. Sometimes it means enduring annoying habits or personality differences with grace rather than constant criticism.
Jesus demonstrated remarkable relational patience with His disciples. Despite their slowness to understand, their competitive arguing, their doubts, and ultimately their abandonment, He continued loving and investing in them. He saw not just who they were but who they would become through His patient mentoring.
Proverbs 15:18 observes that "A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel." Patience has tremendous power to defuse tension and create space for understanding. When we respond to provocation with patience rather than immediate reaction, we often prevent unnecessary conflict and preserve relationships.
Importantly, patience doesn't mean enabling harmful behavior or remaining in abusive situations. Sometimes the most loving response requires establishing boundaries or even separation. But even these difficult actions can be taken with a patient spirit that hopes for eventual restoration rather than seeking revenge.
Call to Action:
Identify one relationship where your patience is being tested. It might be with a family member, co-worker, friend, or even someone in your church community. Write down the specific behaviours or situations that trigger your impatience. Then, develop a specific strategy for responding with greater patience. This might include:
- Praying for the person daily
- Taking a deep breath and counting to ten before responding to provocation
- Looking for positive qualities to appreciate about the person
- Setting healthy boundaries where needed
- Seeking to understand the person's perspective or background
- Choose one of these strategies and implement it today in this challenging relationship.
Reflection Questions:
- Which relationships most frequently test my patience, and why?
- How might understanding someone's background or struggles help me respond with greater patience?
- What boundaries might I need to establish to maintain patience in difficult relationships?
Prayer:
Patient Savior, thank You for Your incredible endurance with me despite my slowness to learn, my repeated failures, and my resistance to change. Forgive me for extending less patience to others than You have shown to me. I specifically lift up my relationship with [name the person], asking for supernatural patience that goes beyond my natural capacity. Help me to see this person through Your eyes—not just as they are now but as they could become through Your transforming work. Give me wisdom to know the difference between patient endurance and unhealthy enabling. May my patience create space for healing, growth, and deeper connection in this relationship. In Jesus' name, Amen.
About this Plan

About This Week's Plan: This week, we'll explore the middle three aspects of the Fruit of the Spirit: patience, kindness, and goodness. These qualities reveal Christ's character in our interactions with others, especially during challenging circumstances. Each day, we'll examine what these fruits look like in practice, how they're developed through life's difficulties, and practical ways to express them in our relationships. Whether you're dealing with difficult people, feeling worn down by waiting, or seeking to make a positive impact, these devotionals will help you cultivate the patience, kindness, and goodness that reflect Jesus to the world.
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