Another key component of intimacy, as we read today, is humility. Humility leads us closer to one another as we prefer our spouse over ourselves. Too often we can think of marriage as a point-scoring game where one of us has to “win;” unfortunately, if one of you “wins,” you both lose. In marriage, you either both win or neither of you wins. This is why you must approach one another humbly and honestly, ready to serve one another. Nothing will bring you more intimacy in your marriage than humbling yourself and owning up to every flaw, frustration, and imperfection you have. Once you do this, then you can both extend and receive grace to one another. And when you do that? Just watch how deep you go.