To pray for your husband on your own, without even letting him know what it is about - to ask God to shape his heart, character and to keep him from temptation - this is a most powerful type of praying. Instead of nagging, ask God to do the very thing that He wants—to transform your husband more and more to be like Jesus in his character and conduct. Because this is exactly the will of God for your husband; when you pray like this, you know you are right in heaven’s bulls-eye.
Read Galatians 5:22-23 and ask God to develop the each of the fruits of the Spirit in your husband’s personal life: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control” (nkjv).
Find the one character quality you know your husband wishes was true of him, and make that your primary prayer focus. Do you see how dramatically different this way of thinking and praying really is? Instead of praying for the one quality you wish your husband had, turn your focus to your husband; he’s the one you are called to help. And he undoubtedly wants help in an area that probably isn’t your number one! Put his wishes first and God will take notice of your unselfish request, and take care of you as well.
One of the most freeing things that can happen in your life as a wife can occur when you learn to release your husband into the hands of Jesus and then ask Him directly to take care of him and change him. Let go of the internal push to “make” your husband better and instead appeal to the only One who can transform anyone. Such amazing peace, power and influence you will have, and do have, as a wife. Use it. You will be blessed as you do.
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