I struggled throughout my life with overwork. My wife and I argued about family priorities often; we were definitely in agreement about this challenge. My wife told me that I was way too preoccupied with things at the office. I tried to change, even shedding tears on many occasions over my compulsion to work and my tendency to neglect our family.
This dilemma of parenting led us to a counselor’s office. One day, with tears streaming down my cheeks, I shared, “You know, I think a major reason why I don’t go home is that I’m afraid. I’m afraid that I don’t know how to be a father. I know my children need me, but I’m not sure I know how to give to them. I feel adequate at work, but I don’t feel adequate with my own children.”
I’ve also discovered that I’m not alone in this struggle. Many parents—fathers and mothers alike—feel inadequate with their own children. Parenting isn’t easy. Raising spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthy children can be incredibly challenging at times. That’s why our first goal as a parent is to become a disciple—a learner, one who is taught, one who listens to and follows Jesus.
I long to have quiet moments of conversation with you. I love when you are still and free of distractions, because those are the times when you can truly feel my love. I have equipped you with everything you need, so come to me often and I’ll remind you of my gifts. I especially enjoy seeing you pray together as a family. When all of us come together in prayer, miraculous things can happen. Remember, I am the God of love. So it’s in these quiet moments of time with me that I can be your unlimited source of sacrificial love.