Becoming the Right Person for and in MarriageSample

MARRIAGE IS NOT TO CONFUSE YOU BUT TO CLARIFY DESTINY

Marriage is not meant to confuse you; it is designed to sharpen and clarify your destiny. God Himself promises, “I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye” (Psalm 32:8 KJV). If you find yourself torn between multiple options, unsure of who to marry, it is not the will of God that is confusing you; it is your spiritual state. Confusion is the fruit of immaturity, where personal desires outweigh divine direction. But when you build intimacy with God, you will find that His leading on marriage flows as naturally as His daily guidance on ordinary matters.

2 Peter 1:10 KJV says make your calling and election sure. This means diligence is required to confirm your steps in life and destiny. Carelessness in spiritual growth produces careless choices in marriage. If you ignore God’s voice in daily living, you won’t suddenly hear Him clearly in marital matters. The Holy Spirit is not silent—He speaks, but many believers are drowned in the noise of their desires. Don’t say, “I don’t know who to choose,” when in truth you haven’t trained your spirit to recognise His voice. Courtship cannot replace consecration, and no amount of fasting can substitute for the obedience you neglected long ago.

Application: (1) Prioritise destiny over desire. Who you marry can either multiply your destiny or suffocate it. (2) Refuse to depend on calculations or compatibility charts—depend on God’s voice. (3) Kill fleshly appetites. When lust rules you, your discernment will be hijacked. (4) Approach marriage as a continuation of your calling, not a side project. (5) Build spiritual sensitivity now. If you can hear Him on small matters, you won’t miss Him on the weighty matter of marriage. God does not play hide and seek with His children; He is committed to guiding you if you will silence your flesh and yield.

THOUGHT TO PONDER
Am I truly training my spirit to discern God’s voice daily? Or am I depending on desires and emotions that confuse destiny decisions?

PRAYER
Lord, sharpen my spiritual hearing and deliver me from confusion. Guide me into a marriage that strengthens my destiny in Christ.