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Devotional 7: Love Does Not Insist on Its Own Way

“…it does not insist on its own way…” — 1 Corinthians 13:5 (ESV)

Reflection

Love and control cannot coexist. When we insist on our own way, we make love conditional—I’ll love you if you agree with me, if things go my way, if you don’t challenge me. But God’s love is selfless, not self-seeking. It listens, yields, and creates space for others to have their voice heard.

Laying down the need to be right or to always have the final word is not weakness—it’s maturity. Love that surrenders the spotlight fosters peace, not pride. It encourages collaboration and connection, rather than competition. This kind of love mirrors Christ, who gave up His rights to serve and save.

Scripture References

• Philippians 2:4 (ESV) – “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
• Romans 15:1-2 (ESV) – “We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak… let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.”
• Luke 22:42 (ESV) – “Not my will, but yours, be done.”

Practical Application

• In conflict, ask: Am I listening to understand or just to win?
• Practice letting someone else make the decision—about where to eat, how to spend time, or what direction to take—and support it joyfully.
• Identify an area where you often try to exert control. Surrender it in prayer and ask God to help you trust and release.

Prayer

Father, You never force Your way, yet You lead with strength and wisdom. Forgive me when I try to control people or situations out of fear or pride. Teach me to love with open hands, to trust You with the outcomes, and to value the voices of others. May my relationships reflect Your humility and grace. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Call to Action

Choose one situation this week where you would normally insist on your preference or perspective. Instead, step back and offer the gift of deference. Let love lead, not your need to be in control.