A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:1, NIV
“You’re wrong,” I snapped. “That doesn’t make any sense at all.”
Leah was sharing her heart about how wounded she was after we’d had an argument. There was no way I was going to allow her to make me out to be the bad guy.
That night I’d won.
In reality, I’d lost.
Big picture. We both lost.
Marital bliss is not measured by wins and losses. You are two parts of the same whole and anything outside of unity is destructive division.
The next time we drew lines in the sand, and I prepared for battle, the Holy Spirit convicted me to only speak two sentences; “I know.” and, “I’m sorry.”
It’s incredible how a soft response not only deflects a harsh exchange, but also paves the way toward resolution with humility.
Discuss how you both speak to each other when one or both are agitated. What communications boundaries can be set in place now that will protect each other when a confrontation begins to brew.