"Rejoice and Share the Blessing of Your Marriage"
“The day you and Stephana get divorced is the day I stop believing in marriage.” Those are the words a friend told me years ago. You talk about stopping you dead in your tracks! Wow. Today, I would advise him to not put all of his hope for marriage in our relationship, but back then I didn’t know what to say.
I was dumbfounded. I was dumbfounded because to me our marriage was highly dysfunctional, and nowhere near the model marriage. We were experiencing major problems, major marital issues, and weren’t always happy in our marriage.
What his comment did to me at the time was open my mind to a couple of things. First, I realized our marriage could have an impact on others, both good and bad. Second, and this took place over time, I realized that my perception of my marriage was somewhat negative. I had a good thing in my marriage (Proverbs 18:22) and I should rejoice, not focus only on the challenging or hard aspects.
God has given you a great blessing in your spouse and in your marriage. Focus on the good in your spouse and marriage, and celebrate. At the same time, your marriage is bigger than you and your spouse. Allow your relationship to be a blessing to other couples. You don’t have to be a marriage “expert” to do this. You can help somebody from your unique experiences in marriage.
Spend some time praying and praising God for each other and your marriage. Talk about what a blessing it is to be married to each other and experience life together. Meditate on the following verses together: Philippians 4:4, 1 Thessalonians 5:16, and Psalm 145:4.
Are you reading the book The 7 Rings of Marriage yet? If not, you can learn more here.