Day 3 of 5 • This day’s reading


UNCOMMEN Dads Seek Wisdom

Best practices.

Regardless of your occupation, it’s a smart move to seek advice. Whether you are a CEO, pastor, mechanic, or you-tuber, bringing some questions to a lunch with a few guys farther up the food chain is worth far more the bill.

Who’s your “dad” mentor? When was the last time you circled up some dads and asked the question, “So what are some of the best things you’ve done with your kids?” or “How do you create margin for your kids when it seems like you’re being pulled in too many directions?” or “Will you ever experience intimacy with your wife again after a newborn?”

There’s gold in them 'thar questions.

Solomon, who back in the day was queried as much as Google, said wisdom was worth more than a fortune or two, “for wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her” (Prov. 8:11).

If you’re a dad, you desire to be a good dad. I’ve never met any dad who thinks, “Man, I hope my kids grow up to disdain me, answer all my questions in grunts, and can’t wait to back out of my driveway.” But desire isn’t enough. Good intentions only go so far.

My dad always said, “Always work hard, but work smart too.” He also said, “Many hands make light work” (usually before a Saturday full of chores). I think “many dads” can make the hard work of being a dad feel a little lighter. You realize you’re not the only one struggling with a teenager. You find a tip or two from the guy who rotates a breakfast with each of his kids once a week. You hear about a rite of passage one dad did for his 12 year old son. You put into practices some best practices before your kids back out of the driveway.