Dating In Black & White: Boundaries, Sex & Reality

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Never Date Alone

Dating can be one of the most adventurous and scariest things you ever do. You’re hanging out with someone you like and who, hopefully, likes you in return. You begin to talk about the future and what it would feel and look like. 

It’s fun, exciting, and can send you on an emotional high for days. The problem is that when you are so caught up in the emotional high, you can no longer see the caution signs or deal breakers that have come up in your dating journey.

A good accountability partner can help you see the danger when you are too head-over-heels in love to see it, and they can see the good when you’re too scared to admit it. When there is no accountability, there’s a greater chance for relational failure that can leave your emotions damaged, your heart broken, and your spirit crushed. 

Having accountability is a must, if you are going to date in a healthy way. Now, remember that in order for this to be effective, you will need to do two things correctly. You will need to #1 find the right accountability partner or partners, and #2 you will need to be honest with them at all times. If you have to lie to your accountability partner about your relationship, that’s a good indicator that your relationship has gone out of bounds in some area and you’re feeling the need to hide it. 

Choosing A Good Accountability Partner

It’s very important that you choose your accountability partner wisely. It needs to be someone who has the same beliefs as you, loves you, and wants the best for you. It also needs to be someone who can be honest with you. It has to be someone you can receive from and submit to, even when you don’t like what they have to say. 

Your accountability partner needs to be someone you can go to when you’re having struggles in your relationship, and who can help you navigate through those struggles. 

It’s probably not a good idea for your accountability partner to be someone who hasn’t had a successful relationship or someone who is still carrying around baggage from past relationships. 

Examples of Good Accountability Partners

· Someone who has a successful marriage

· Someone who is committed to seeing God’s will done in your life

· Someone who has your best interest at heart

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