Ubuhlakani Obujulile: Uhambo lwezinsuku eziwu-7 ZobabaIsampula

Ngingazibala izinto unkosikazi wami abeyizo ukuqinisekisa kolunye uhlangothi. Isidlo sakusihlwa ndawonye kolunye.

“Ubuya nini ekhaye?” wayengibuza. “Ngixakekile . . . kuzoba isikhashana” kusho mina. Engahlehli, wayethi, “Phuma ekuxakekeni ungene indlela. Sinesidlo sakusihlwa ndawonye kulomndeni. Sizobe sesilungile, sizobe sisetafuleni ngo 6:30!”

Ngithe ukuthasisela kulendaba, kodwa hhayi kakhulu. Unkosikazi wami wayehlala eqinisekisa ukuthi sibe nesidlo sakusihlwa ndawonye njalo kusihlwa njengomndeni. Ekuqaleni, ngangingakukuboni kubalulekile.

But over time, especially as my kids moved into adolescence, I saw the value. It was the one time every day when we were eyeball-to-eyeball. We talked about things. We could hear their hearts and they could hear ours. They could see how their parents talked, worked together, and loved each other. Brother and sister sat there for a little dose of family.

Uma kungesikho ekhaya, abantwana bakho bayofunda kuphi ukuzinikela othandweni, ezintweni zomndeni, ukuzibophezela, ukuzwelana, ukusombulula izinkinga ebudlelwaneni, nokuxolela? Ubani ozobalungiselela impilo yomshado neyomndeni?Angazi noma sikhona “isikole sobaba” noma “wife isikole somama” lapho abantwana befunda lezizinto.

Umbuzo: Umndeni wakho uyahlala ndawonye njalo? Zibuze, “Eminyakeni engamashumi amabili kusukela manje, abakuthola ngaphandle kuyobaluleka kakhulu kunalokho abangakufunda emndenini?”