3 Questions Every Daughter Needs AnsweredSample

From the moment she enters the world, a daughter begins asking the question, “Do you see me?”

At first, it’s expressed in playful twirls, loud “watch this!” moments, or shy glances to see if you’re paying attention. But as she grows, the question becomes quieter, deeper, yet no less important.

She’s not just wondering if you’re in the same room. She’s asking if she matters in your world. If you notice her hopes, her heartaches, her personality, and her presence—not just when she excels or performs, but in the ordinary and in-between moments too.

This longing isn’t shallow. It’s spiritual.

In fact, one of the first names ever given to God in the Bible came from a woman named Hagar. In her moment of despair—discarded and alone—God met her personally. She called Him El Roi, the God who sees. “You are the God who sees me,” she said in Genesis 16:13. That truth still resonates in the hearts of our daughters today.

Jesus carried this same heart. In Luke 8, a woman who had been overlooked and dismissed for years quietly touched the hem of His robe. She didn’t want to interrupt—just to receive. But Jesus stopped everything and asked, “Who touched me?” He saw her. He called her “Daughter.” And in doing so, He healed more than just her body—He restored her identity.

Your daughter needs to know she is seen like that. Not just looked at, but seen—deeply, fully, and intentionally.

To be seen is to feel valued. And that value doesn’t come from performance, perfection, or comparison—it comes from identity.

As parents, we help shape that identity when we affirm her presence, listen when she speaks, and pay attention to what matters to her. We can remind her that she is uniquely created and equipped. What talents does she have? What makes her light up? The more we model God’s attentiveness, the more we help her anchor her value in His eyes—and in ours.

Psalm 139 reminds us that this kind of attention starts with God Himself: “You knit me together in my mother’s womb… all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” God saw her before you ever did. And He invites you to carry that same awareness and intentionality as her parent.

When this question is answered well, daughters stand taller. They feel known. Their inner world becomes a place of peace instead of insecurity. But when the question is ignored—or answered with absence, silence, or indifference—the damage can run deep. A girl who feels unseen will often try to make herself visible in any way she can—sometimes in ways that hurt her more.

You don’t need to be perfect. But you do need to be present.

You answer her question with every moment you pause to listen. Every time you choose connection over correction. Every time you look her in the eyes and smile—not because of what she’s done, but simply because she’s yours.

Your daughter doesn’t need to perform to be noticed. She needs to know she is hand-crafted. Chosen. And that her very existence matters deeply to you—and to God.

Reflection:

• What are some simple ways you can show your daughter that you truly see her?
• Have there been times when she may have felt unseen? How can you begin restoring connection and trust?