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Winning in Communication: A Devotional for Husbands

Marriage isn’t a competition, but if it were, the prize would go to those of us who commit to becoming the best communicators. Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy, God-honoring marriage. Together, let’s explore four biblical principles to strengthen our communication with our wives.

1. Walk Worthy (Ephesians 4:1-3)

Though this passage doesn’t explicitly mention communication, its principles lay the foundation for godly interaction. Are we humble in our communication? Do we speak with gentleness and patience? Do we use communication as a tool to maintain unity in our marriages? Walking worthy in our calling as husbands means embracing these qualities in every conversation with our wives.

Reflect: Are we approaching conversations with humility and patience? How can we adjust our tone and demeanor to better reflect Christ’s love?

2. Listen First (James 1:19-20)

Our wives’ hearts are deep wells, and it’s our privilege to draw out their thoughts, feelings, and dreams. Let’s listen attentively, ask thoughtful questions, and resist the urge to interrupt or offer quick fixes. Listening well fosters intimacy and demonstrates that we truly value their voices.

Reflect: Are we truly listening to our wives without distractions or preconceived responses? How can we create space for them to share their hearts?

3. Build Up (Ephesians 4:29)

The term “corrupting talk” refers to speech that is unproductive or harmful, like rotten fruit. Instead, we’re called to speak words that build our wives up, encourage them, and fit the moment. We should ask ourselves: Does our communication add value? Are we builders in our marriages? Our words hold the power to uplift and inspire.

Reflect: Are our words consistently uplifting and constructive? How can we intentionally speak life into our wives this week?

4. Bring Grace (Colossians 4:6)

Let’s think of our words as a seasoning that adds flavor to our conversations. Are we sprinkling grace into our interactions? The grace we’ve received from God should flow into our communication with our wives, reflecting His love and kindness.

Reflect: Are we showing grace in our conversations, even in moments of frustration or disagreement? How can we better reflect God’s kindness in our speech?

God has called us to be godly communicators in our marriages. Let’s reflect on these four principles together:

1. Walk worthy by embodying humility, gentleness, and patience.

2. Listen first to draw out our wives’ hearts and build connection.

3. Build up with words that encourage and strengthen.

4. Bring grace into every conversation, reflecting the love of Christ.

Marriage is a journey, not a competition, but we can strive together to become the best communicators. As we grow in godly communication, our marriages will thrive, and we will glorify God together. May we, as husbands, be the ones who win in communication!