The Love You Deserve: How to Value Yourself in DatingSample

Day 4: Seek a Partner Who Honors You

When it comes to love, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of being chosen. But the real question is, are you being honored? God didn’t create you to settle for half-hearted love or relationships filled with selfishness. He made you in His image, and that means you are worthy of a partner who uplifts, supports, and treats you with respect.

Think of what it feels like to have someone truly listen to you — not just hearing your words but valuing what you have to say. That’s the kind of respect and care you should look for in a partner. Love isn’t about grand gestures or fleeting butterflies; it’s about consistency, kindness, and intentionality. A relationship rooted in mutual care shows up in the smallest, everyday actions.

Ask yourself, does this person support my growth? A healthy partnership isn’t about completing one another; it’s about growing together. Your relationship should be a space where both of you can pursue your God-given purpose without fear or hesitation. If your partner encourages your dreams, cheers you on during challenges, and prays with you, that’s a solid foundation. But if you feel stifled, second-guessed, or pressured to give up what matters most to you, it’s worth reevaluating whether that relationship is honoring.

Shared values are another key to a God-centered love. A partner who honors you doesn’t just respect your beliefs — they share in them. Whether it’s putting Christ first, serving others, or nurturing family, aligning your values is vital. Without that unity, even the strongest physical or emotional connection can waver under pressure. Loving someone isn’t just about feelings. It’s also about choosing to share the same priorities and walking in the same direction.

It’s also important to look for someone with a commitment to growth, not perfection. None of us have everything figured out. But a partner who consistently works to better themselves emotionally, spiritually, and relationally shows a dedication to building a lasting, God-honoring relationship.

Today, take some time to reflect on what it means to be honored in love. Make a list of the qualities that matter most to you, such as kindness, respect, faithfulness, and shared values. Pray and ask God for guidance, believing that He will direct you toward someone who mirrors His love for you. You deserve a love that uplifts you, strengthens your faith, and reflects the care of Christ. Trust God’s plan and dare to seek the kind of relationship He desires for your life.