Finding Mr. Right - Dating for Christian WomenSample

THERE'S NO RUSH!

When we talk about the process of dating and seeking a future spouse, time becomes one of the most valuable assets in discerning whether a relationship is truly built to last. The principle of time allows you to truly get to know the person you're considering marrying—not just in the highlight reels of your time together, but in the day-to-day grind of life. Time gives you the opportunity to observe how your potential spouse handles challenges like stress, conflict, rejection, and even success.

Scripture reminds us of the importance of wisdom in decision-making. Proverbs 19:2 says, "Desire without knowledge is not good—how much more will hasty feet miss the way!" Rushing into a relationship or marriage can often lead to decisions based on emotion rather than grounded in spiritual wisdom. Many Christian women I have counseled have shared regrets about rushing into marriage, feeling the weight of that decision only months into the relationship. This is often because they didn’t give themselves enough time to see how their partner handled key aspects of life like anger, authority, or personal responsibility. Love, especially the kind that builds a God-honoring marriage, can wait.

If you find yourself in a relationship where the man is pressuring for a quick commitment, it’s a sign to pump the brakes. Time allows you to evaluate the situation with clarity and reason rather than being swept up in emotional highs.

For Christian women, particularly those who have been married before, the wisdom of time becomes even more critical. You might feel a sense of urgency because of your stage in life, but the evaluation process shouldn’t be skipped or rushed. In fact, it should be even more thoughtful. As Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” This includes relationships.

It’s also important to recognize how sexual involvement can cloud your judgment and blur your spiritual discernment. The moment you engage in physical intimacy, your ability to evaluate the relationship with a clear mind diminishes. This is why maintaining sexual purity can protect your heart and your mind from making hasty decisions that you may later regret.

So how long should you date before deciding? That’s something you’ll need to figure out in the context of your relationship, but the principle remains: time is your ally. Take the time to evaluate, to pray, and to seek God’s wisdom. Love can wait, and so should your decision-making process. Time, after all, can help reveal truth.