Perspective Shift: Student EditionSample

How often do you say “If only…”?

If only I was older…

If only I had that special someone…

If only my family had that money…

The false promise of if-only thinking is: “If I had that thing, then I'd be happy.” It's a mindset that blocks the way to true contentment. We can define contentment this way—to rest in and enjoy what God has given you. God tells us that’s a really good thing (1 Timothy 6:6–10). This truth resonated with Paul so deeply that it transformed how he saw everything. The "if onlys" of life became loss rather than gain. And suddenly, rather than being driven by willpower or strength, Paul was drawn to the contentment we all have in Christ. In my life, I’ve noticed two significant enemies that constantly attack godly contentment:

Enemy #1: Cares of the World

Anxiety undermines trust in God's provision and wisdom. Jesus warns in Mark 4:19 that "cares of this world" can choke God's word and promises in our lives, causing them to be unfruitful.

Enemy #2: Comparison

This enemy is a thief of joy. As Paul notes in 2 Corinthians 10:12, comparing ourselves to others is unwise. There will always be someone with something "better," keeping us in a cycle of discontentment.

This week, whenever the thought "If only..." enters your mind, replace it with gratitude. Make a daily list or share with someone just one thing you are thankful for, no matter how small. An attitude of gratitude is a powerful weapon against the enemies of our contentment.

• Recite this week's memory verse: "Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content" (Philippians 4:11, NKJV).
• What are the "If only..." statements you always catch yourself thinking?
• In what areas of your life do you most frequently find yourself making comparisons?
• How can remembering what God has done help you become more content in the present?