Selfishness is loving our own life so much that there is a lack of love and service toward God and others. It is an active pursuit of self-satisfaction and pleasure that ignores the needs and interests of others. Selfishness robs us of thankfulness and also the ability for self-control. Contrary to selfishness are humility, love, kindness, and goodness.
SELFISHNESS in the heart says things such as: "I have to look out for what I want and need." "What I want is more important than the needs of others." "I want what I want--when and how I want it."