How to Deal With My Anger


Anger Is Dangerous

As people, we often get angry about things. Sometimes, we are angry about our family. Other times we are angry about our job. Often, we are angry at our children. At times, we are even angry at people or events in our church. Some people find themselves always feeling angry. How do we as believers in Christ deal with the emotion of anger?

The Bible has a lot to say about anger. It is an important issue. First of all, the Scriptures clearly differentiate between sinful anger and righteous anger. The Bible describes sinful anger as dishonoring to God. It even says that it is destructive. As believers, we need to realize that anger is actually a dangerous feeling. For example, the book of Proverbs warns us against rescuing a hot-tempered person. It says that if we do it once, we will have to do it again. In other words, the Bible insists that anger is a repetitive feeling: If we give in to it once, we will develop a dangerous pattern in our lives of operating out of anger. 

In another place in Scripture, we are even instructed not to associate with an angry person. Anger is such a dangerous issue that the Lord does not want us to keep close company with people who are characterized by it. The Bible tells us to love everyone. Yet, we should keep a loving distance from people who have hot tempers. The saying, “Show me your friends and I will show you who you are,” definitely applies here. Watching people close to us easily giving in to anger and handling their life occurrences based on that emotion will cause us to think that it is normal to do so. Soon, we ourselves will start getting angry easier.

In other words, anger operates as an infectious disease. That is why we need to stay away from someone characterized by this emotion. We also do not want to be characterized by something that is dangerous. We do not want our fellow believers to be instructed to avoid us. We need to care about the issue of anger. We need to watch out to make sure that this feeling is not a regular part of our daily living. If we see ourselves or someone close to us being easily overcome by the emotion of anger, we need to seek help as soon as possible.