Sex, Purity, And The Longings Of A Girl's HeartSample

Lies about Our Design

Sex and sexuality are two of the hottest topics in society right now. With so many voices expressing opinions, it can be confusing to know what’s truth and what’s not. Two of the areas the great deceiver targets are in our understanding of sexual identity and in redefining marriage.

Lie #1: Sexual Identity Is Determined by Personal Desires

When we met Lisa, she was struggling to understand her sexual identity. She was familiar with God’s design for male and female relationships but was confused because she felt attracted to women. Lisa was hurting and felt alone in this journey. 

Opening up and talking about her inner struggle with same-sex attraction was a big deal for her and she showed such bravery in doing so with us. Her biggest fear in being honest about her struggle was the condemnation and disapproval she anticipated from other Christians. Those within the church who struggle with their sexual identity often have a lot of questions and can’t seem to find honest and compassionate answers. This needs to change. 

Lisa chose to be truthful about what was going on in her heart, and we listened, humbled that she was willing to confide to us. We didn’t have all the answers for Lisa, but she gained a new sense of confidence in God’s love for her and a renewed hope in exploring the Bible for answers. 

Lie #2: Marriage Is a Union between Any Two Partners

Today’s definition of marriage, according to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary is: “The state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.”  In 1828, Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary defined marriage this way: “The act of uniting a man and woman for life. Marriage is a contract both civil and religious, by which the parties engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall separate them. Marriage was instituted by God himself for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children.” Enough said. An original definition of marriage is now rewritten to reflect the ever-evolving views of today’s society.

If we, as women, want to experience God’s good and intended design for our sexuality, we need His help. We need His rescuing. We need saving from our brokenness.

Are you willing for God to shape your understanding of your sexuality and view of marriage even if it feels counter to what culture declares or what you feel?