Popular movies, sitcoms and late night comics seem to love harping on the erroneous belief that marriage eventually kills your sex life. But the real joke, for those in the know, is on all of them. Why? Marriage actually makes sex better.
Several studies have shown that married people are about twice as likely as unmarried people to make love at least two or three times a week. And 48 percent of husbands say sex with their partners is extremely satisfying, compared to just 37 percent of cohabiting men. That’s right. Even couples living together but not married do not enjoy sex as much as married couples.
Even mainstream research is showing why God designed us to reserve sex in a monogamous, marriage relationship.
As a psychologist, I often have the married couples I'm counseling try a little experiment. I have them commit to pray together for two weeks — even if it's just for a brief moment or two. Then, I have them report back on how their sex life changed — if at all — over that same period. You guessed it. Almost invariably the couples will tell me their sex life improved.
I like the way The Message translates Hebrews 13:4:
"Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex."
There you have it. God doesn't create "rules" to trip us up or test us. God's guidelines are there to give us the best life possible — even when it comes to having great sex in marriage.