From Our Father to Amen: The Prayer That Shapes UsSýnishorn

As we forgive our debtors

The Freedom of Forgiving others

These simple words from the Lord’s Prayer hold profound power and deep challenge. We eagerly rejoice in the first part—asking God to forgive our sins. But when it comes to the second half—"as we forgive our debtors" (Matthew 6:12 NKJV)—the truth becomes more personal and difficult.

To “forgive” means to release, to send away. Just as God has cast our sins “as far as the east is from the west” (Psalm 103:12 NKJV), we are called to release the offenses committed against us. But forgiveness is rarely easy. It means surrendering our right to retaliate, our desire to hold a grudge, and even our demand for justice.

Forgiving others mirrors God’s grace toward us. Ephesians 4:32 NKJV commands, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” He didn’t wait for us to clean up our act. While we were still sinners—enemies, even—Christ died for us (Romans 5:8-10). Forgiveness began with Him, and He calls us to imitate that same love.

So why do we struggle? Often, it’s because the hurt feels too deep. Maybe someone betrayed your trust, abandoned you, or deeply wounded you. Forgiveness doesn’t dismiss the pain. It means choosing to no longer let it define you. It’s an act of faith, not feeling. It’s saying, “God, because You forgave me, I will obey You and forgive others.”

This kind of obedience affects our relationship with God. Unforgiveness can hinder our prayers (Psalm 66:18) and rob us of peace. But when we forgive, we walk in freedom. We experience the peace of Christ ruling in our hearts and relationships.

So take time today to ask: Who do I need to forgive? Reflect on God’s mercy toward you. Then, in prayer, release that person—“send forth” the debt. It may take time and repeated effort, but by His Spirit, it’s possible.

Forgiveness is not forgetting—it’s choosing not to remember in a way that fosters bitterness. It’s choosing love over resentment. And it is the very heart of the gospel.

Forgive, as Christ forgave you.