How the Mighty Have Fallen!
Give yourself to love. You can’t have love without loss.
There are some basic things that we can learn when it comes to helping someone in grief and loss.
1. It’s more about presence than perfect words.
2. Embrace the pain.
3. Help with responsibilities.
4. Guard against the number 1 cliché: “Call me if there’s anything I can do or if you need me.”
5. Talk and listen through things.
6. Everyone grieves differently and on various timetables.
7. Self-care is a needed emphasis.
8. Mealtimes can be especially lonely so having a meal with someone can be especially meaningful.
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
C S Lewis