StoneBridge Community Church
Hearts and Minds #3: Getting Rid of Anger
Pastor Neal Nybo
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    4832 Cochran St, Simi Valley, CA 93063, USA
    Saturday 5:25 PM

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Introduction to Hearts and Minds Message Series

Written by the Apostle Paul, the first seventeen verses of Colossians chapter three is like a “how-to” guide for following Jesus. This nine week, Hearts and Minds message series will unpack and explore these practical "how-to's" and inspire us to live them out.

Quote by Dallas Willard

“The idea of having faith in Jesus has come to be totally isolated from being his apprentice and learning how to do what he said.”― Dallas Willard, The Divine Conspiracy: Rediscovering Our Hidden Life in God. Here are some additional quotes from Dr. Willard:
1. Break the anger cycle

Last week we talked about a progression the author used, beginning at the end, with the worst and then backing up, step by step to the starting point. Today, we look at Col 3:8 and find another progression, this time starting with the first stage and progressing to its natural outcome.
Anger: Burst of strong negative emotion.
Rage: Anger that lingers.
Malice: Rage that includes a desire to see someone hurt.
Slander: Malice acted out.
Filthy language from your lips: Hurtful words become part of your vocabulary.
The three parts to our brains
1. The reptilian brain (basal ganglia and brainstem) handles basic drives like hunger as well as habits and procedural memory (like putting your keys in the same place every day without thinking about it or riding a bike).
2. The paleomammalian brain (hypothalamus, hippocampus, amygdala, and cingulate cortex) is the center of our motivation, emotions, and memory including sight, smell, and sounds connected to memories.
3. The neomammalian brain (neocortex) enables language, abstraction, reasoning, and planning.

Psychology Today article and 3 brains

Sometimes, something that we are not conscious of, such as a particular smell, can trigger a complex emotion for reasons that our conscious mind cannot understand. That can occur because the paleomammalian brain has processed the smell, retrieved a memory related to the smell, and triggered the emotion relevant to that experience.
Reflection Questions
1. Which of these five steps in the anger cycle have you demonstrated? Which have you experienced from others?
2. Describe a time when your anger was just anger – just a momentary response to something that just happened.
2. Identify the cause of your anger.

Anger seems like an obvious. We're angry or we're not. There is the kind of anger we get when we hit our thumb with a hammer. That is that first kind of immediate cause and effect anger. I hurt myself and it made me angry. Don’t let the sun go down on that kind of anger. Be angry and sin not. Don’t put that hammer through the wall.

All of that is a slightly different Greek word from the one in our text. Today's relates more to what has happened to us in the past. There is a reason we call it baggage. We carry stuff with us and it affects us today.
Reflection Questions
1. What do you feel or think of when you see hot pancakes on a plate, melting butter sliding down the side with the smell of maple syrup?
2. Have you ever seen or smelled something and it took you back to a childhood memory?
3. Take a minute to think about, then describe, a time when your anger may have been related to something that happened in your past.
3. Take preventive action.

James 1:19, 20 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

I wish more Christian leaders would take this passage to heart. Human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. I think we could assume that human anger does not produce Godly results.

Dallas Willard would often say, anything that can be accomplished with anger can be better accomplished without it.
Reflection Questions
1. Do you know your anger is triggered by something in your environment? For example, the neighbor’s dog barks early in the morning.
2. How can you take preventive action about that situation?
3. When was the last time you memorized something? Can you still remember it?
4. How much of Col 3:1-17 are you willing to try memorizing?
Next Steps:

1. Ask one or two trusted people if they notice you being angry often.
2. Memorize Colossians 3:1-17 over the next few weeks.

Scripture memory is like spiritual WD-40

In the 50’s a company in San Diego set out to develop rust-prevention solvents and degreasers for use in the aerospace industry.  Its 40th try produced the perfect Water Displacement solution, hence, WD 40. Convair, an aerospace contractor, first used WD-40® to protect the outer skin of the Atlas Missile from rust and corrosion. It keeps water and dust away, prevents rust, and keeps parts moving smoothly. Basically, it keeps the bad stuff out, stops corrosion, and keeps things running smoothly. Memorizing scripture does the same thing.

The Navigators are memorization champions

Navigators value Scripture memorization as an important tool for spiritual growth. But many people find it challenging to do. If you struggle with memorization, you’ll find these tips for hiding God’s Word in your heart and recalling it to mind really helpful.

A good link for Bible Memorization

This website and app help you memorize by typing the scripture while it removes words from the text.

5 more memorization apps

Here are additional tools for memorizing scripture.

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