God thinks you are valuable, regardless of what may have happened to you. It makes us the judge jury and executioner. And that is power.
The first thing to do is think it through.
1) Is this what you REALLY want? Is this who you really want to be?
Do you want to be like David-his deathbed talk was focused on a long since forgotten wrong done to him. Do you want to be that person who can’t get over the past, even if it was traumatic, we can’t stay there.
2) How will this change the situation?
Do you think by carrying around this attitude of resentfulness, it will change the situation? Will it change what happened to you?
Do we think that if I drink this poison-that will show them? My resentment will really fix them? Other than controlling and ruining your life will it change anything else?
3) What will the consequences be for me if I carry it?
We said earlier that resentment usually calls for retaliation. What type of retaliation? Illegal one? Immoral one? What would the consequences be for you if you did that?
If someone hurt your family, would you want to kill them? If your spouse had an affair, would you have one because they did-just to show them how it hurt you?
4) What else can I do to get rid of this?
Think of an alternative to being resentful. Try being grateful for what you DO have and how many blessings you do enjoy, instead of the few hurts or wrongs you experience.
Sometimes just being rational with ourselves will help with resentment.