The GO Church International
Relationship Status - It's Complicated
Locations & Times
The GO Church International
215 W Wieuca Rd NW, Atlanta, GA 30342, USA
Sunday 9:30 AM
Sunday 11:30 AM
Are you trying to hide a complicated relationship?
Give strict attention to verses 16-18. Jesus reveals the complicated relationship with this Samaritan woman and other men.
Give strict attention to verses 16-18. Jesus reveals the complicated relationship with this Samaritan woman and other men.
What is an "it's complicated" relationship?
1. It is a “sort of” commitment, which means it’s something like a relationship without full commitment.
2. It is where you might be someone, but that someone is not necessarily with you.
3. You are exchanging goods (the fulfillment of certain needs and wants) for services (mostly sex).
4. You are just friends with options.
5. The goal is to seek pleasure and focus on self, not commitment and honor
1. It is a “sort of” commitment, which means it’s something like a relationship without full commitment.
2. It is where you might be someone, but that someone is not necessarily with you.
3. You are exchanging goods (the fulfillment of certain needs and wants) for services (mostly sex).
4. You are just friends with options.
5. The goal is to seek pleasure and focus on self, not commitment and honor
QUESTIONS TO PONDER
1. Am I valuable?
2. What am I worth?
3. What do I deserve?
4. What am I searching for?
5. Why am I comfortable with someone taking from me without committing to me?
1. Am I valuable?
2. What am I worth?
3. What do I deserve?
4. What am I searching for?
5. Why am I comfortable with someone taking from me without committing to me?
TRUTHS TO CONSIDER
Ephesians 1:4 – “Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.”
Ephesians 2:4-5 – “But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)
Also refer to Psalm 136:26, Psalm 86:15, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and 1 John 4:7-8
Ephesians 1:4 – “Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.”
Ephesians 2:4-5 – “But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)
Also refer to Psalm 136:26, Psalm 86:15, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and 1 John 4:7-8
TRUTHS TO CONSIDER (cont.)
You cannot have a committed relationship that is built on non-commitment. Someone will “accidentally” commit. Someone is going to catch feelings.
You cannot share intimacy and not catch feelings. You may start off the relationship with certain rules like it’s just sex, we’re just having fun, we’re just having a good time or we both know that this isn’t going anywhere; however, someone is going to catch feelings.
Value doesn’t beg. If you know who you are in God then you won’t ever settle to be sloppy seconds to someone who won’t commit to make you first. Either you’re first material or not!
1 Corinthians 6:19-20– “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”
Acceptance, security, identity and affirmation are important foundational needs for every being.If you do not have them as a child then you will go in search for them as an adult. And, the enemy will convince you to fill your legitimate needs illegitimately.
You cannot have a committed relationship that is built on non-commitment. Someone will “accidentally” commit. Someone is going to catch feelings.
You cannot share intimacy and not catch feelings. You may start off the relationship with certain rules like it’s just sex, we’re just having fun, we’re just having a good time or we both know that this isn’t going anywhere; however, someone is going to catch feelings.
Value doesn’t beg. If you know who you are in God then you won’t ever settle to be sloppy seconds to someone who won’t commit to make you first. Either you’re first material or not!
1 Corinthians 6:19-20– “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”
Acceptance, security, identity and affirmation are important foundational needs for every being.If you do not have them as a child then you will go in search for them as an adult. And, the enemy will convince you to fill your legitimate needs illegitimately.
THINGS TO REMEMBER
1. You have so much more to offer, and you’re worth much more.
2. Adam KNEW Eve, and whether you believe it or not, you’re worth knowing, too—deeply; intimately.
3. Make up your mind that you don’t have time for “sort of” commitments. Either commit to you or leave you alone.
4. Never settle.
1. You have so much more to offer, and you’re worth much more.
2. Adam KNEW Eve, and whether you believe it or not, you’re worth knowing, too—deeply; intimately.
3. Make up your mind that you don’t have time for “sort of” commitments. Either commit to you or leave you alone.
4. Never settle.
NEXT STEPS
Confess Jesus Christ as your lord and savior.
Romans 10:9 – “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”
Commit your life to Christ.
Psalm 37:5 – “Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you.”
Finish Growth Track classes.
Growth Track, which is our membership classes, are 4 different classes that are purposed for you to learn about the church, the church leadership to learn about you, you discover your spiritual gifts and find the best way to serve your new church home. Classes are held every Sunday immediately following our 9:30am service.
Invite someone to church with you next week.
Think of at least 3 people you would like to invite to service next week with you. List their names and numbers. Contact them throughout this week and arrange transportation. Give them the joy of experiencing what you are experiencing.
Consider partnering with our church by giving monetarily. The Gathering Oasis Church offers online giving at your convenience.
Confess Jesus Christ as your lord and savior.
Romans 10:9 – “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”
Commit your life to Christ.
Psalm 37:5 – “Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you.”
Finish Growth Track classes.
Growth Track, which is our membership classes, are 4 different classes that are purposed for you to learn about the church, the church leadership to learn about you, you discover your spiritual gifts and find the best way to serve your new church home. Classes are held every Sunday immediately following our 9:30am service.
Invite someone to church with you next week.
Think of at least 3 people you would like to invite to service next week with you. List their names and numbers. Contact them throughout this week and arrange transportation. Give them the joy of experiencing what you are experiencing.
Consider partnering with our church by giving monetarily. The Gathering Oasis Church offers online giving at your convenience.
Online Giving
http://www.thegochurch.com/give/GOING DEEPER
When discussing God’s love, please refer to Psalm 136:26, Psalm 86:15, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and 1 John 4:7-8.
Are you currently in a complicated relationship?
If so, consider properly defining it. Consider cutting off the relationship if the other person does not want to fully commit to you. Do not be afraid to have the difficult conversation.
Answer the “Questions to Ponder”. Answer each one of them honestly on a separate sheet of paper.
Dive deeper into John 4:4-18. What is the contextual message Jesus was sending to the woman at the well? How does that message relate to everyone?
When discussing God’s love, please refer to Psalm 136:26, Psalm 86:15, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and 1 John 4:7-8.
Are you currently in a complicated relationship?
If so, consider properly defining it. Consider cutting off the relationship if the other person does not want to fully commit to you. Do not be afraid to have the difficult conversation.
Answer the “Questions to Ponder”. Answer each one of them honestly on a separate sheet of paper.
Dive deeper into John 4:4-18. What is the contextual message Jesus was sending to the woman at the well? How does that message relate to everyone?