Northland Church
How to Lose Your Family in 10 Easy Ways: Have a Changing Center
A message from Senior Pastor Josh Laxton
Locations & Times
Northland Church
522 Dog Track Rd, Longwood, FL 32750, USA
Saturday 5:00 PM
Sunday 9:00 AM
Sunday 11:00 AM
Welcome to Northland!
Northland Church exists to glorify God as we participate in His mission of redeeming a people from all peoples by engaging neighbors and nations to be fully alive in King Jesus through the power of the Spirit.
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Northland Church exists to glorify God as we participate in His mission of redeeming a people from all peoples by engaging neighbors and nations to be fully alive in King Jesus through the power of the Spirit.
NorthlandChurch.net
Why people get married:
- We love each other.
- Societal, family, and traditional pressure.
- I thought it would fix him.
- I needed a green card.
- We wanted to “do it”.
- Social, legal, and financial benefits.
- Ready to start a family.
- We love each other.
- Societal, family, and traditional pressure.
- I thought it would fix him.
- I needed a green card.
- We wanted to “do it”.
- Social, legal, and financial benefits.
- Ready to start a family.
Couples can: FALL OUT of LOVE just as much as they FELL IN LOVE.
You’ve heard, I’ve heard people say things like: LOVE is a CHOICE!
41%–43%—First-time marriages end in divorce.
60%–67%—Second-time marriages end in divorce.
73%–74%—Third-time marriages end in divorce.
60%–67%—Second-time marriages end in divorce.
73%–74%—Third-time marriages end in divorce.
If you want to lose your family, choose a marital center that changes.
If we want to keep our marriage and family intact, if we want to preserve our marriage and family, if we want to sustain our marriage and family, here is what we will need: A Massive Anchor to weather any Marital Adversity.
1. Marriage doesn’t meet my needs, God does.
“…at the beginning the Creator made them male and female.”
“…at the beginning the Creator made them male and female.”
Let’s make a list of all the ways God provided for Adam:
- God made him.
- God breathed the breath of life in him.
- God gave him trees for food.
- God gave him running water.
- God gave him a place to live.
- God gave him connection.
- God gave him meaningful work.
- God gave him freedom, boundaries, and stability.
- God gave him suitable help and companionship.
- God made him.
- God breathed the breath of life in him.
- God gave him trees for food.
- God gave him running water.
- God gave him a place to live.
- God gave him connection.
- God gave him meaningful work.
- God gave him freedom, boundaries, and stability.
- God gave him suitable help and companionship.
If you are looking for your spouse to meet your needs, to complete you, to satisfy you, to make you content in life. Let me tell you what you have done to your spouse:
You have just put the pressure on them to be God.
You have just put the pressure on them to be God.
Here is what we know:
Humans, husbands, and wives, make crappy gods!
Humans, husbands, and wives, make crappy gods!
If you attempt to protect your needs—that aren’t being met by your spouse—by constantly exploding emotionally, at some point you may blow up your marriage.
2. Marriage was God’s idea, not mine (ours).
“… the two will become one flesh. . . . what God joined together.”
“… the two will become one flesh. . . . what God joined together.”
1) Marriage in God’s Mind consists of the SAME CONVICTION.
If you don’t have the Same Conviction it might lead to a Costly Separation.
If you don’t have the Same Conviction it might lead to a Costly Separation.
2) Marriage in God’s Mind consists of SYNERGISTIC COMPATIBILITIES.
3) Marriage in God’s Mind consists of SIMILAR COMMONALITIES.
3. Marriage is a mirror, to mirror God.
“…what God joined together, let no one separate. . . . anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another commits adultery.”
“…what God joined together, let no one separate. . . . anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another commits adultery.”
- God has an extremely high view of marriage
- God’s intention for marriage can be marred and broken by our sin, our infidelity.
- God wants us to stay together since He brought us together.
- God’s intention for marriage can be marred and broken by our sin, our infidelity.
- God wants us to stay together since He brought us together.
Humans were created in God’s image to reflect, represent, and mirror His glory, His Kingdom—His character, attributes, and nature.
When both sacrifice and give themselves to one another—Flourishing happens.
When one sacrifices and gives and the other takes—Frustration happens
When both selfishly take and selfishly protect—Fracturing happens.
When one sacrifices and gives and the other takes—Frustration happens
When both selfishly take and selfishly protect—Fracturing happens.
When you understand, embrace, and live out that…
- God meets all your needs, not your Mate…
- Your Marriage should be rooted in God’s Mind…
- Your Marriage exists to Mirror God’s Glory…
You’ll Have the Anchor your Marriage Needs!
- God meets all your needs, not your Mate…
- Your Marriage should be rooted in God’s Mind…
- Your Marriage exists to Mirror God’s Glory…
You’ll Have the Anchor your Marriage Needs!