A Friend That Is Closer Than A Brother – 1 Samuel 18
1Samuel18:1-4 After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king’s son. There was an immediate bond between them, for Jonathan loved David.2 From that day on Saul kept David with him and wouldn’t let him return home.3 And Jonathan made a solemn pact with David, because he loved him as he loved himself.4 Jonathan sealed the pact by taking off his robe and giving it to David, together with his tunic, sword, bow, and belt.
1 Samuel 19:1-5 Saul now urged his servants and his son Jonathan to assassinate David. But Jonathan, because of his strong affection for David,2 told him what his father was planning. “Tomorrow morning,” he warned him, “you must find a hiding place out in the fields.3 I’ll ask my father to go out there with me, and I’ll talk to him about you. Then I’ll tell you everything I can find out.” 4 The next morning Jonathan spoke with his father about David, saying many good things about him. “The king must not sin against his servant David,” Jonathan said. “He’s never done anything to harm you. He has always helped you in any way he could.5 Have you forgotten about the time he risked his life to kill the Philistine giant and how the Lord brought a great victory to all Israel as a result? You were certainly happy about it then. Why should you murder an innocent man like David? There is no reason for it at all!”
1 Samuel 20:27-42 But when David’s place was empty again the next day, Saul asked Jonathan, “Why hasn’t the son of Jesse been here for the meal either yesterday or today?” 28 Jonathan replied, “David earnestly asked me if he could go to Bethlehem.29 He said, ‘Please let me go, for we are having a family sacrifice. My brother demanded that I be there. So please let me get away to see my brothers.’ That’s why he isn’t here at the king’s table.” 30 Saul boiled with rage at Jonathan. “You stupid son of a whore!”[a] he swore at him. “Do you think I don’t know that you want him to be king in your place, shaming yourself and your mother?31 As long as that son of Jesse is alive, you’ll never be king. Now go and get him so I can kill him!” 32 “But why should he be put to death?” Jonathan asked his father. “What has he done?”33 Then Saul hurled his spear at Jonathan, intending to kill him. So at last Jonathan realized that his father was really determined to kill David. 34 Jonathan left the table in fierce anger and refused to eat on that second day of the festival, for he was crushed by his father’s shameful behavior toward David. 35 The next morning, as agreed, Jonathan went out into the field and took a young boy with him to gather his arrows.36 “Start running,” he told the boy, “so you can find the arrows as I shoot them.” So the boy ran, and Jonathan shot an arrow beyond him.37 When the boy had almost reached the arrow, Jonathan shouted, “The arrow is still ahead of you.38 Hurry, hurry, don’t wait.” So the boy quickly gathered up the arrows and ran back to his master.39 He, of course, suspected nothing; only Jonathan and David understood the signal.40 Then Jonathan gave his bow and arrows to the boy and told him to take them back to town. 41 As soon as the boy was gone, David came out from where he had been hiding near the stone pile.[b] Then David bowed three times to Jonathan with his face to the ground. Both of them were in tears as they embraced each other and said good-bye, especially David. 42 At last Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn loyalty to each other in the Lord’s name. The Lord is the witness of a bond between us and our children forever.” Then David left, and Jonathan returned to the town.[
WHY WE NEED FRIENDSHIPS:
(1) Because life was meant to be shared
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” Genesis 2:18 NLT
(2) To make it through life’s troubles
(3) To guard against self-deception
TWO THINGS THAT MAKE TRUE FRIENDSHIP A SOLID FRIENDSHIP
Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
(2) Openness & transparency
Proverbs27:5-6,17-An open rebuke is better than hidden love. 6 Wounds from a sincere friend
Proverbs29:5-To flatter friends is to lay a trap for their feet.
WHERE DO YOU FIND THIS FRIENDSHIP?
John15:12-17-This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.13 There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.