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Life Church Assembly of God
Family Patterns (Week 3)
Weekend Service - April 30th
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Week 3
Communication Patterns
Week 3
Communication Patterns
PATTERN is “a reoccurring way of acting by an individual or group toward a given object or in a given situation.”
Your relationship with family, friends, and Jesus WILL NOT survive if you don’t develop HEALTHY COMMUNICATION PATTERNS.
The main way we Communicate with each other is through Words and the Words we use are important!
”There is no correlation or relationship between INTENT and OUTCOME!”
”INTENT IS USUALLY IRRELEVANT!”
It doesn’t matter what your INTENTION was, the OUTCOME is something got broken and must be FIXED!
1. THINGS NOT TO DO
Understand that EXPLAINING DOES NOT EQUAL REPAIRING.
“I didn’t mean it that way. Or, that didn’t come out right. Or, I was just trying to be funny. It wasn’t my intent to hurt you.”
EXPLAINING SOUNDS AND FEELS LIKE BLAMING to the person we’ve hurt with our words!
When we mix an EXPLANATION with an APOLOGY the other person feels PRESSURE and an EXPECTATION from us to magically “FEEL” better as if nothing had happened.
Understand that Apologies don’t reverse and erase injuries to the BODY or to the SOUL when our words have hurt someone!
An APOLOGY combined with an EXPLANATION sounds like an EXCUSE!
Mouth Control is the ultimate Self-Control!
YOUR WORD PATTERNS can burn down your Marriage, or the relationship you have with your Kids or your Parents.
our immediate reaction is to CONTAIN IT, which is why we EXPLAIN IT.
We need to understand that EXPLAINING is NOT CONTAINING!
2. HOW DO WE PUT OUT THE FIRE?
Word fires are EXTINGUISHED by TWO THINGS
The first is a big dose of HUMILITY!
The Second thing that will EXTINGUISHES the fire is SENSITIVITY.
The first is a big dose of HUMILITY!
The Second thing that will EXTINGUISHES the fire is SENSITIVITY.
EXPLAINING is INSENSITIVE!
EXPLAINING elevates ME but HUMILITY elevates the OTHER person
”I’M SO SORRY.”
You need to allow the one you’ve hurt to CHOOSE the SPEED and the METHOD of RESTORATION.
You’re not in a position to ask them for anything, including a hug.
Don’t use your authority as a parent to FORCE them into taking you back when they’re not ready.
Don’t Ask the Other Person for Forgiveness.
I’m going to elevate you, give you space, and let you set the timeline for restoration. I’m not going to ask anything from you. I’m just going to submit myself to you.
If you love your family members you will change the PATTERN OF HOW YOU COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR WORDS.
- Is there anyone in your Family that has been crushed by your words recently?
- Is there a fire you’ve attempted to Explain and Contain?
- Use your Mouth to bring about good with Humility and Sensitivity.
- Is there a fire you’ve attempted to Explain and Contain?
- Use your Mouth to bring about good with Humility and Sensitivity.