Cross City Church - North
March 26, 2022 / Relationship Goals / Love Is The GOAL...Not Dating or Marriage
Relationships are complicated because we are complicated as people, God still allows us amazing moments where we see Him through the relationships we have with others including our family and friends. Follow along with our Campus Pastor, Kent Wells as we discuss what it looks like to WIN in the areas of life that matter the most.
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1. Loving God first and most should always lead the way.
Matthew 22:36-38...
36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37 And He said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment.
Matthew 22:36-38...
36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37 And He said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment.
Why is this important? It’s about you and God and no one else.
Psalm 139:12-14 reminds us how intimate this relationship is...
12 “For You formed my inward parts; You knitted me together in my mother's womb. 14 I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”
David knew at the end of the day, his relationship with God was started before he showed up on the scene.
- He has a plan for you.
- There is still a singleness to every one of us in the room.
- God is still singular in His focus and call for you individually.
Embrace that singular focus and call God has on you with all your:
- Heart...your affection, your passion, your desire
- Soul...your will and determination – drive to be the best YOU
- Mind...your focus, attention, affection
Psalm 139:12-14 reminds us how intimate this relationship is...
12 “For You formed my inward parts; You knitted me together in my mother's womb. 14 I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”
David knew at the end of the day, his relationship with God was started before he showed up on the scene.
- He has a plan for you.
- There is still a singleness to every one of us in the room.
- God is still singular in His focus and call for you individually.
Embrace that singular focus and call God has on you with all your:
- Heart...your affection, your passion, your desire
- Soul...your will and determination – drive to be the best YOU
- Mind...your focus, attention, affection
2.Loving the person God made you to be comes second.
Matthew 22:39...
And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as YOURSELF.
- How are you with YOU?
- What are you doing to grow YOU?
Matthew 22:39...
And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as YOURSELF.
- How are you with YOU?
- What are you doing to grow YOU?
“Who you are without a person is just as important as who you are with a person! God didn’t create marriage first. He created an individual first. In his singleness, Adam was able to spend some great quality time with God before he ever had a person. More important than being married is to be singular in focus with God and YOU. You and I need to love who God created us to be. If you never are ok with you – you won’t be ok with you + anyone else.”
3. Loving the people God puts in front you comes last.
Matthew 22:39...
And a second is like it... You shall love your NEIGHBOR as yourself.
Who is my neighbor?
- 150 times in the ESV – God uses “neighbor” in Scripture
You can’t truly love your neighbor, spouse, or friends the way you are supposed to unless you love God and you love yourself.
Marriage doesn’t improve singleness it exposes a lot about you individually.
Matthew 22:39...
And a second is like it... You shall love your NEIGHBOR as yourself.
Who is my neighbor?
- 150 times in the ESV – God uses “neighbor” in Scripture
You can’t truly love your neighbor, spouse, or friends the way you are supposed to unless you love God and you love yourself.
Marriage doesn’t improve singleness it exposes a lot about you individually.
4. If you aren’t LOVING well now – you won’t LOVE WELL in a relationship either.
John 13:34-35...
34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
John 13:34-35...
34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. 35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
What does LOVE look like from God’s point of view?
1 Corinthians 13:4-8...
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends...
1 Corinthians 13:4-8...
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends...
If you aren’t...
- Patient now...probably won’t be in a relationship.
- Kind now...probably won’t be in a relationship.
If they are...
- Proud, arrogant, rude now...probably will be in a relationship.
- My way or the highway now...same then.
- Doesn’t care about the truth...lie and cheat all the way through.
- Bears it all now...likely they will in marriage too
- Patient now...probably won’t be in a relationship.
- Kind now...probably won’t be in a relationship.
If they are...
- Proud, arrogant, rude now...probably will be in a relationship.
- My way or the highway now...same then.
- Doesn’t care about the truth...lie and cheat all the way through.
- Bears it all now...likely they will in marriage too
“God loves giving gifts. Some get the gift of singleness. It’s not a curse, it’s a gift. Some get the gift of marriage. It isn’t the better gift, it’s just a gift. Sex is also an incredible gift. It’s true that this gift is best inside of marriage. But don’t waste your whole life thinking marriage is better because of sex. Marriage is great but not if God hasn’t called you to it.”
To those about to date/marry...
2 Corinthians 6:14-16...
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God.
To the young singles...
Song of Solomon 3:5...
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem...that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.
All who are wanting something different than what you have now...
Psalm 37:4...
Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart
2 Corinthians 6:14-16...
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God.
To the young singles...
Song of Solomon 3:5...
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem...that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.
All who are wanting something different than what you have now...
Psalm 37:4...
Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart