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Should I Get A Divorce
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Monday 9:00 PM
The Bible gives two clear grounds for divorce: (1) sexual immorality (Matthew 5:32; 19:9) and (2) abandonment by an unbeliever (1 Corinthians 7:15). Even in these two instances, though, divorce is not required or even encouraged. The most that can be said is that sexual immorality and abandonment are grounds (an allowance) for divorce. Confession, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration are always the first steps. Divorce should only be viewed as a last resort.
Are there any grounds for divorce beyond what the Bible explicitly says? Perhaps, but we do not presume upon the Word of God. It is very dangerous to go beyond what the Bible says (1 Corinthians 4:6). The most frequent additional grounds for divorce that people inquire about are spousal abuse (emotional or physical), child abuse, addiction to pornography, drug / alcohol use, crime / imprisonment, and mismanagement of finances (such as through a gambling addiction). None of these can be claimed to be explicit biblical grounds for a divorce.
That does not necessarily mean, though, that none of them are grounds for divorce which God would approve of. For example, we cannot imagine that it would be God’s desire for a wife to remain with a husband who physically abuses her and/or their children. In such an instance, the wife should definitely separate herself and the children from the abusive husband. However, even in such a situation, a time of separation with the goal of repentance and restoration should be the ideal, not necessarily immediately beginning divorce proceedings. Please understand, by saying that the above are not biblical grounds for divorce, we are definitely not saying that a man/woman whose spouse is engaging in such activities should remain in the situation. If there is any risk to self or children, separation is a good and appropriate step.
Another way to look at this issue is to differentiate between biblical grounds for divorce and biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage. Some interpret the two biblical grounds for divorce mentioned above as the only grounds for remarriage after a divorce, but allow for divorce with no remarriage in other instances.
In summary, what are the biblical grounds for divorce? The answer is sexual immorality and abandonment. Are there additional grounds for divorce beyond these two? Possibly. Is divorce ever to be treated lightly or employed as the first recourse? Absolutely not. God is capable of changing and reforming any person. God is capable of healing and renewing any marriage. Divorce should only occur in instances of repeated and unrepentant heinous sin.
That does not necessarily mean, though, that none of them are grounds for divorce which God would approve of. For example, we cannot imagine that it would be God’s desire for a wife to remain with a husband who physically abuses her and/or their children. In such an instance, the wife should definitely separate herself and the children from the abusive husband. However, even in such a situation, a time of separation with the goal of repentance and restoration should be the ideal, not necessarily immediately beginning divorce proceedings. Please understand, by saying that the above are not biblical grounds for divorce, we are definitely not saying that a man/woman whose spouse is engaging in such activities should remain in the situation. If there is any risk to self or children, separation is a good and appropriate step.
Another way to look at this issue is to differentiate between biblical grounds for divorce and biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage. Some interpret the two biblical grounds for divorce mentioned above as the only grounds for remarriage after a divorce, but allow for divorce with no remarriage in other instances.
In summary, what are the biblical grounds for divorce? The answer is sexual immorality and abandonment. Are there additional grounds for divorce beyond these two? Possibly. Is divorce ever to be treated lightly or employed as the first recourse? Absolutely not. God is capable of changing and reforming any person. God is capable of healing and renewing any marriage. Divorce should only occur in instances of repeated and unrepentant heinous sin.
Story & Question
Meet Tyrone & Donna. Tyrone dreamed about being married since he was 14. His parents was his role models and his everything. He lost both of his parents to a car accident when was 20 and from the one wanted it was his dream to start his own family.
Donna mother died while having her. Her dad raised her and because she never had her mom with her, it molded her to want to be a great mom to her kids since she never had that experience.
Tyrone & Donna has now been married for 3 years and has been trying to have kid. Finally in their third year, Donna gives birth to their son TJ. It has been difficult but 6 years later they now have a 6 year old son which now makes them married for 9 years and together for 10.
5 months after TJ 6th birthday TJ had heart failure and had to get a heart transplant. After countless prayer and their church support, TJ received the heart plant and funds for medication that the church raised for TJ and his family. However, there is only one problem, TJ medication is so expensive that it will bankrupt their family over time trying to get it each month. Example ( 10K per month for each monthly pill)
Tyrone & Donna upset about their situation sat with the doctor and a financial advisor together to try to come up with a way to afford the medication and save their son life. After careful consideration the doctor and financial advisor came up with a solution that will work but may cause other issues.
What issues you ask?
Well, here is the issue, the government on a federal or state level doesn't support families in these circumstances, you would either need to get private support or ongoing donations each month to continue TJ medication. If TJ does not take these pill each month, his body will reject his new heart and the pill is the only way of keeping his body from rejecting his new heart. This is a pill that TJ will need to take for the rest of his life. However, time is running out in a execution plan and TJ stockpile of medication is as well.
The only way to solve the problem is for Tyrone and Donna to find a permanent solution to this ongoing problem. The doctor and financial advisor advice is for Tyrone & Dona is to get a divorce so that as a single mom, Donna can get Medicare & Medicaid for TJ that will cover the medication for her son for the rest of his life.
Tyrone is totally against divorce as in this case this is not even a biblical reason to get a divorce but Donna right now is considering all options to save her son. Tyrone & Donna is both really close to you and they both call you separately to get advice.
What will your advice be to both Tyrone and Donna separately? They call the ask…
Should I Get a Divorce?
Meet Tyrone & Donna. Tyrone dreamed about being married since he was 14. His parents was his role models and his everything. He lost both of his parents to a car accident when was 20 and from the one wanted it was his dream to start his own family.
Donna mother died while having her. Her dad raised her and because she never had her mom with her, it molded her to want to be a great mom to her kids since she never had that experience.
Tyrone & Donna has now been married for 3 years and has been trying to have kid. Finally in their third year, Donna gives birth to their son TJ. It has been difficult but 6 years later they now have a 6 year old son which now makes them married for 9 years and together for 10.
5 months after TJ 6th birthday TJ had heart failure and had to get a heart transplant. After countless prayer and their church support, TJ received the heart plant and funds for medication that the church raised for TJ and his family. However, there is only one problem, TJ medication is so expensive that it will bankrupt their family over time trying to get it each month. Example ( 10K per month for each monthly pill)
Tyrone & Donna upset about their situation sat with the doctor and a financial advisor together to try to come up with a way to afford the medication and save their son life. After careful consideration the doctor and financial advisor came up with a solution that will work but may cause other issues.
What issues you ask?
Well, here is the issue, the government on a federal or state level doesn't support families in these circumstances, you would either need to get private support or ongoing donations each month to continue TJ medication. If TJ does not take these pill each month, his body will reject his new heart and the pill is the only way of keeping his body from rejecting his new heart. This is a pill that TJ will need to take for the rest of his life. However, time is running out in a execution plan and TJ stockpile of medication is as well.
The only way to solve the problem is for Tyrone and Donna to find a permanent solution to this ongoing problem. The doctor and financial advisor advice is for Tyrone & Dona is to get a divorce so that as a single mom, Donna can get Medicare & Medicaid for TJ that will cover the medication for her son for the rest of his life.
Tyrone is totally against divorce as in this case this is not even a biblical reason to get a divorce but Donna right now is considering all options to save her son. Tyrone & Donna is both really close to you and they both call you separately to get advice.
What will your advice be to both Tyrone and Donna separately? They call the ask…
Should I Get a Divorce?