To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33, CSB)

1. The Needs in Marriage

Each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33, CSB)

A Wife’s View – Does he love me?
A Man’s View – Does she respect me?

2. The Conflict in Marriage

Feeling unloved may spark disrespect.

Men hear criticism as contempt.

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman. (Proverbs 21:9, AMPC)

Ask: Will my husband interpret my words and actions toward him as disrespect?

Feeling disrespect may spark unloving actions.

Women feel silence as hostility.

Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman (1Peter 3:7, ESV)

Ask: Will my wife interpret my words and actions toward her as unloving?

3. The Mindset for Marriage

I must choose to believe the best about my spouse.

[Love] believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:7, CSB)