Headship is not the right to command and control. It’s a responsibility to love like Christ. In other words what this passage of Scripture does is two things: it guards against the abuses of headship by telling husbands to love like Jesus; and it guards against the debasing of submission by telling wives to respond the way the church does to Christ.
- Headship is the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christ-like servant leadership, protection, and provision in the home.
- Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband's leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts.
One other common objection to the pattern of leadership and submission is that the term "head" does not carry the meaning of leadership at all. Instead, it means "source," somewhat like we use the word "fountainhead" or the "head of a river" (Bilezikian, pp. 157–162). So, to call a husband the head of his wife wouldn't mean that he is to be a leader, but that he is in some sense her "source" or her "fountainhead." *