Your vertical love is measured by your horizontal love!
“for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?" 1 John 4:20

1. All relationships should be handled with an attitude of submission. Submit: to obey, to yield to one’s admonition or advice; to be under the authority. “Serve one another humbly in love” Galatians 5:13 and “in humility value other above yourselves” Philippians 2:3

2. All relationships should be handled with a mutual concern for one another.

3. All relationships should be handled with a mutual sensitivity to one another.

4. Remember…why has God placed us in this relationship and what does God want to do in us through this relationship?

1. There are two commands given in marriage based on different needs and different weaknesses.

2. Wives are called to submit.

3. Husbands are called to love.

Headship is not the right to command and control. It’s a responsibility to love like Christ. In other words what this passage of Scripture does is two things: it guards against the abuses of headship by telling husbands to love like Jesus; and it guards against the debasing of submission by telling wives to respond the way the church does to Christ.
- Headship is the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christ-like servant leadership, protection, and provision in the home.
- Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband's leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts.
One other common objection to the pattern of leadership and submission is that the term "head" does not carry the meaning of leadership at all. Instead, it means "source," somewhat like we use the word "fountainhead" or the "head of a river" (Bilezikian, pp. 157–162). So, to call a husband the head of his wife wouldn't mean that he is to be a leader, but that he is in some sense her "source" or her "fountainhead." *
*John Piper

1. Children are called to obedience and honor.

2. Fathers do not provoke your children to anger by how you treat them. vs 4

3. Fathers are responsible for the training and instruction of their children. vs 4

Workers:
1. God calls us to obey our authorities with respect and fear. vs 6:5
2. God calls us to seek to please them by our work even when they are not watching. vs 6:6
3. God calls us to work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord and not people. vs 6:7
4. Remember God is our rewarder. vs 6:8

Overseers:
5. Treat your worker in the same way. No threats, no favoritism but only respect! vs 6:9