GRACE Abounds for the Spouseનમૂનો

A Battlefield

When your wife discloses her story, it can feel like a grenade has just gone off—ears ringing, disoriented, and confusing friend for foe. Satan is the enemy here, not your wife and not your God. Remember, you and your wife are allies—assembled, trained, and equipped by the ultimate commander. It is the enemy who is the author of confusion, fear, and division in your marriage. Prepare for his tactics. Your objective: gear up in the armor of God, lock arms, and stand firm against the roaring lion, for your strength is from the Lord.

No one wins a war without solid defenses, so consider boundaries. Your wife’s space was breached by her abuser, leaving her walls damaged. Maybe she struggles to say no, or she is unsure where to draw the line. Or, on the flip side, perhaps she built a fortress so impenetrable that it keeps everyone and everything out, including you. Both responses are signs of boundaries under attack. The result? Unhealthy relationships. Take the time to communicate what healthy boundaries look like in your relationship. Although it requires vulnerability and patience, good communication can lead to greater trust, understanding, and intimacy- tools necessary to rebuild a broken marriage.

If someone in authority violated your wife, opening her heart to your loving care and leadership can take time, but you can restore trust with patience, consistency, and healing. Your mission is to lead with Christ-like humility and sacrificial love, earning her trust over time. She needs to know your expectations come from the ultimate Commander-in-Chief, not a selfish agenda. She will follow when she sees you submitting to the authority of Christ. You see, leadership in marriage is not about barking orders but about serving her. Even our Lord came not to be served but to serve.

Miscommunication can be the difference between victory and chaos. Be open about your feelings, but more importantly, listen to hers. Respect boundaries—even if they are inconvenient. Every small step—a set boundary, a healthy no, or a moment of trust—is a step toward triumph, the mountain summit.