GRACE Abounds for the Spouseનમૂનો

Game Time

The quarterback does not see the blitz coming when the defense sacks him. Similarly, trauma is complex and does not always play by standard rules. When your wife has endured such a profound violation, it has impacted her mind, body, soul, and spirit, leaving her to carry pain she might not yet have words to explain. She is wrestling with feelings like brokenness, anger, and shame that may seem overwhelming. Be patient and gentle with her because she needs to know her emotions are safe with you. She seeks empathy and validation. So what do you do? Think of it like being in a huddle—you may not know the perfect play to call, but you can still show her you are ready to line up by her side every time.

When your wife shares her story with you, know that it is coming from a place of ultimate trust in you. She will look for assurance that it is kept confidential and will want the freedom to share at a pace that is most comfortable for her. She may fear judgment or repercussion because her perpetrator likely used manipulation, coercion, or shame to control her. If she opens up, avoid pressing for details. Instead, express appreciation for her courage and offer understanding. If repressed memories make it difficult for her to recall certain aspects, respect her need for space and reassure her that you are available when she is ready to talk. Ephesians 4:2 (NIV) says, "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Sometimes, being her teammate means simply nodding your head and saying, "I'm here," even when you don't have the right words.

As her husband, you are not just in the game but all in. So, when she steps onto the field of healing, make sure you are also in the stands, cheering for every yard she gains. Because sometimes the bravest thing you can do is show up, listen, and remind her that even in the darkest times and on the steepest hills, you are her biggest fan.