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Devotional 8: Love Is Not Irritable

“…it is not irritable…” — 1 Corinthians 13:5 (ESV)

Reflection

Irritability often signals that something deeper needs attention—overwhelm, unmet needs, unhealed wounds. When we’re easily irritated, it’s usually because we’re operating from a depleted or defensive place. Love, however, slows down. It doesn’t lash out, withdraw, or stew in silent frustration.

To love well is to cultivate emotional maturity. It means we pause, breathe, and ask God to meet us in the midst of the tension. Love remains gentle even when the situation is not. It prioritizes presence over reaction, and grace over offense.

Scripture References

• Proverbs 19:11 (ESV) – “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.”
• James 1:19-20 (ESV) – “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”
• Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV) – “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience… gentleness, self-control.”

Practical Application

• Notice your triggers. What situations or words typically spark irritation? Invite the Holy Spirit into those moments before they build up.
• Take “holy pauses”—step away to breathe and pray before responding.
• Practice empathy. Ask yourself: What might this person be experiencing right now that I’m not seeing?

Prayer

God, when I’m tired or overwhelmed, I often become short-tempered. Help me to slow down and let Your Spirit guide my responses. Teach me to love even in stressful moments—with gentleness, patience, and peace. May my words and actions be filled with Your calm presence. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Call to Action

This week, choose one recurring situation that tends to irritate you—whether with a person, task, or habit. Plan for how you will respond with love rather than reaction. Ask God to give you a calm spirit in the midst of the moment.