Captive No More: Freedom From Pain, Shame and GuiltParaugs

# Why Don’t We Deal With the Pain of Our Past? > “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. > 1 Corinthians 6:12 Oddly enough, hurt people would rather suffer in silence than face the potential of pain, shame, or humiliation by confronting past injuries head-on. The risk of airing it out to even our most trusted friends or a professional counselor is not worth the risk of losing face in the self-esteem department. We are also driven by ego, a major factor in our help avoidance. The right ego is important to the alpha mindset. An attack on our ego by showing a need for help is interpreted as a diminished capacity. Humility is seen in a very limited display when the ego is running the show. ## Call To Action 1. Write out whether or not you are open to receiving help in healing from past pain. If not willing to receive help, write down why you are refusing help.  Write as if explaining to your most loved ones, why you are refusing help to heal. 2. Write out what you would want help in healing to look like. 3. Write out what you see your life as like living without what haunts you.